A triangle in a marriage is bad because it involves a third person trying to destroy the relationship. Over the years, we slowly learn that one particular triangle is good because the other vertex is God himself.

We were married on January 12, 2002 in Saratoga, California. This year marks our 23rd wedding anniversary. Our marriage has been more functional rather than relational. This is especially true after our two daughters were born. We are like team partners trying our best to tackle the different problems thrown at us every day. Both of us are working and we have a clear division of responsibilities at home. We might have been quite efficient and effective in handling our jobs but we are lacking in communication and intimacy. We look like two independent contractors working on different projects in our household.

We thank God for attending the Marriage Enrichment Retreat (MER) which reminds us the importance of cultivating and nurturing our marriage continuously. We also have the privilege to undergo training to serve in the MER ministry. About one month before my hospitalization and brain surgery, Thomas and I attended MER2 which focuses on spiritual growth as a couple together and walking with God. In the MER2, we learned methods to pray together as conversations and using scriptures. I believe that God has prepared us in advance. During my hospital stay, Thomas and I had lots of free time waiting. That was the best opportunity for us to practice the spiritual disciplines learned recently and get closer to God together as a couple as we faced the biggest trial in my life.